how to better your attitude for gratitude

gratitude has the power to alter your entire attitude

Gratitude: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Oxford Dictionary

Having an attitude of gratitude will take you places you might not have realized you could go. It is about recognizing the importance of what you do have and limit your focus on what you don’t.

This is powerful beyond measure, it’s how you communicate with the universe, higher power, and/or, God that you are aware and appreciative of all your blessings. Gratitude is a fundamental aspect of self-development and your well-being.

 

Many of us had been taught to say, “please”, and “thank you” from a young age ~even though sometimes we forget~ it is ingrained into our psyche that we often find it rude when people don’t practice decent mannerisms. But, it is more than mannerisms and being polite. 

One of the simpliest and most effective ways to ensure we don’t take things for granted is to practice gratitude.

-Shannah Kennedy

We often take many things or people for granted. Our gratitude slips through the cracks when something/someone becomes common or comfortable. Like when you first move out of home and you don’t have a home-cooked meal every night. Or, when you get sick and you didn’t appreciate life before a stuffed nose and being bedridden. Even water gets taken for granted so much. We learn through these lessons what you might have taken for granted and when to start practicing gratitude. 

gratitude is the root of true happiness

Finding the time to express gratitude can be difficult sometimes, that’s why it is important to be conscious of this habit. There are simple ways to improve your practice of gratitude. Because let me tell you… gratitude will make your skin glow, hair strong, and aura bright, it’s a game-changer. 

  1. Find small moments in your day to give thanks for what you already have. Brushing your teeth, having a hot cup of coffee, water readily available, shoes on your feet. You can humble yourself by noticing the little things that you do have rather than what you don’t. The grass isn’t greeners on the other side, it’s where you water it. 

  2. Take note of how you feel when you do express gratitude. There are plenty of ways to do this, via gratitude apps on your phone, a journal, or even a mental note. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

  3. When you start practicing gratitude you might say things like: I am grateful for my family, I am grateful for my partner or I am grateful for my pet/s. This is a great way to begin, but if you can start adding in why you are grateful for all those things in your life. This will help you give meaning to your appreciation.  For example; I am grateful for my partner who takes the time to check over my work before publishing. Simple, yet effective. 

reciprocity and gratitude

Gratitude and reciprocity have a domino effect on yourself and society. We go through life as we are but these simple gestures can make a world of difference.  We have been showing gratitude since the dawn of time, but maybe not as you think. 

According to studies of the evolution of gratitude, primates would show gratitude through reciprocity, “you scratch my back, I scratch yours”. It’s been claimed through generations that gratitude and reciprocity are intertwined. Simple acts of kindness can go a long way. 

When we are thankful for someone or something, we often find that they too reciprocate that kindness to others and themselves. Or, we are grateful someone has done something nice for us and we want to return the favor because it makes us feel good and grateful. The key is to be sincere about your gratitude, in which case you’ll find it pleasantly reciprocated even if it isn’t immediate. 

We have an Arabic proverb that goes like this: 

“if you’re unable to reward, be sure to thank”

 

SHUKRAN (thank you in Arabic) for taking the time to read this piece. I am appreciative of you all. Have a lovely week and stay grateful. 

 

 

 

 

Interested in knowing more about the health benefits of gratitude? Check out Positive Psychology, where they discuss the Neuroscience of Gratitude

 

 

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